For the longest time, I struggled with a toxic friendship with a young lady I met many years ago. It started out like any normal friendship. We would talk about everything, go out partying, and I even invited her to family events. Imagine my surprise when a mutual friend revealed that she was talking badly about me behind my back. Here I was thinking this girl could be trusted with my personal information, deepest feelings, and even my life goals, boy was I wrong! It took me just last year to finally get over the friendship being dissolved.Looking back now, I think I was more hurt that I truly let my guard down and was disappointed.
As much as I tell myself I wouldn’t let this person affect me, she did. I remember having so many emotions running through me all at once. Like how dare you talk about me behind my back! If I did something that bothered you so badly, then why didn’t you come to me directly? Between all of the unanswered questions, rage, and malice I felt forming towards this person. All I could do was pray, and focus on letting them go!
Many of us have dealt with, or currently dealing with a toxic friendship(s). That one person you know may not be good for you or your life, but you simply cannot find a way to let them know the friendship is over, or worse, you find yourself being addicted to the dysfunction! I cannot stress enough the importance of discernment. Once you understand the importance of having the ability to judge well, you find that life will start to get easier, and your friendships will become more genuine.
I encourage you today to take a good look at your circle. Make the necessary changes in order for you to grow. Keep in mind that family can sometimes be toxic as well as strangers. Although you cannot change who is part of your family, You always have a choice to distance yourself and love them from a distance.
Have you ever dealt with a toxic friendship or family member? I would love to hear about it below!1