If you’re a first time mommy Congratulations! You’re one of the very few chosen to be a gaurdian angel on Earth, so take pride in that. Although you maybe scared, reading tons of books, and getting advice from veterans in the game….Relax my dear and rest assured with this, no two mothers will ever be alike. I could sit you down and teach you everything I know. I could even write a book and pay you to follow every instruction, and you would still put your own twist on it.
Motherhood is not about being the perfect mother, “Motherhood is about raising and celebrating the child you have, not the child you thought you would have. It’s about understanding that he/she is exactly the person that they are supposed to be. And that, if you’re lucky, they just might be the teacher who turns you into the person you are supposed to be” – Joan Ryan.
My son is three years old, and I’m still learning something new about him everyday. I’ll be the first to admit that I’m not perfect, nor do I have this mom thing all figured out. Truth is, from the moment I saw those two pink lines on that pregnancy test my life changed. Becoming someone’s mother meant that my role in the world had changed as well. I wasn’t just the same old Ruth trying to be a new, improved version of myself. I was a mother, really,truly and forever, and the question I asked my self was, what kind of person, what kind of mother, would be reflected in my child’s eyes?
The most important thing I have learned is how to be selfless. For as long as I could remember, it used to be all about Ruth and I loved it. God however, had other plans for me. Elijah has shown me a more rewarding part to life that I didn’t even know exist. Learning to be selfless allowed me to see life from a giving perspective. I can truly say becoming a mother changed me for the better.
The second thing I’ve learned is the importance of TIME. It seemed like yesterday that Elijah was born. Now that he’s 3 going on 30, I’m lucky if I even get him to act like he hears me screaming his name to come clean his room. When he was born I remember being in such a rush to teach him how to be self sufficient, and now I want that small baby that use to just lay across my chest for hours.
To all my new mommies, Don’t rush the process. Take in all the hugs and kisses (which I’m still loving ), all the months of NO walking/crawling, and everything in between. Always remember time waits for no one, so enjoy every minute while you’re in that moment.
Thank you so much for stopping by. Until next time stay blessed, and be sure to be a blessing to someone today.