Many, if not all of you are familiar with the most popular “F” word in the history of “F” words lol! It’s the only “F” word that falls under FAITH in my book. That word is called FORGIVENESS. I know, I know, you’re probably thinking… OMG, here we go again! BUT forgiveness is important, so we are going to talk about it ladies!
Many of you who know my story and how Girls with Bibles came about (if you don’t, don’t worry I will be writing another post on it this week!), know that I struggled with unforgiveness in my heart for a very long time. It was during one of my darkest moments when I decided that I had enough. I had enough of holding onto pain, anger, malice, regrets, shame, and most of all… UNFORGIVENESS!
In the Bible its states;
“And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.” Mark 11:25
“For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” Matthew 6:14-15
“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32
Notice that in all three scriptures God is saying FORGIVE others as God forgives you. AND to forgive others so that God WILL forgive you too. It’s so important to understand that forgiveness is so much bigger than you and I. When you forgive someone, it has absolutely nothing to do with them, but EVERYTHING to do with YOU. Once you realize this, your life will become so much more enjoyable.
When people hurt you in any way, learn to leave it in Gods hands and forgive them. Holding on to unforgiveness will only stop your blessings every time. After all, you’re not perfect and God chooses to forgive you daily. Are you the only one that deserves His forgiveness and grace? Of course not!
My struggle with unforgiveness haunted me for 10 years! Here I was, just turning 30 and feeling like I had it all figured out. Until I ran into an ex-boyfriend on campus! Talk about scary! Instantly my heart began to beat faster, and I just froze. After an award hello and some ease dropping on my part of a conversation he was having with another staff member. I began to feel something brewing inside of me. The need for an apology had been gone from my mind for years now, so I was so shocked at how angry I became from the sight of him.
I remembered thinking, why am I feeling this way? It’s literally been 9 years already! Later on that evening, I went home and jumped right into detective / FBI mode lol. I searched for hours without any luck. Then finally a name I didn’t recognize from his family history came up. Instantly I searched the name. To my surprise, everything unveiled right before my eyes. Not only was he married, but they had kids! Every single feeling I had ever felt with this man came back full force! Yet, I was still trying to figure out how and why I was feeling this was.
I prayed for what seemed like an eternity for God to give me clarity on this situation. Then all of a sudden, God placed the word forgive in my spirit. But I know I forgave him, I thought. Its been so many years and I don’t even cry about the pain anymore Lord. But he kept repeating ‘ Forgive him”. Instantly I began to weep like a baby! How crazy is it that we can hold on to unforgiveness in our hearts for years and not know it!
That day, I not only walked out of my prayer closet forgiven but I forgave my ex for EVERYTHING he had ever done to hurt me. It was by far one of the best moments before the Lord. I didn’t realize just how much hurt and pain I was carrying until I laid them at his feet. The Lord restored me that day, and I finally learned the importance of forgiving someone for the first time in my life.
If someone has wronged you, perhaps you are having trouble untying the weight of the hurt that has been caused. That’s okay. This stuff takes time. There are many roads to forgiveness, just don’t allow it to change you or block your blessings. Do you have a story about forgiveness, or is there someone you’re struggling to forgive? Feel free to leave me a comment below! I would love to connect with you!